UM YEAH
She Was Sheep
So after a stimulating conversation with a female coworker about dating I began to realize something that had eluded me for many months.
I was seeing this woman, and I knew she was not the “one” though she was not bad by any stretch of the imagination. Actually if we were to sit down and have a conversation about her (which I did) I would sound crazy for complaining about anything.
Fairly attractive. Not exactly model material but she is good looking. Didn’t annoy me like most women I date tend to do. Has her shit together. Graduate degree holder, home owner, works for one of the top three firms in her field with a promising career. The sex was great and she was not one of those chicks who was all fast (literal motion) with head either. No sprint, all finesse.
I digress… So yeah, on paper she sounds great and every time I would talk to friends about not wanting to get super serious with her they would look at me weird. That is until I realized that the underlying reason I refused her was because she was sheep.
Aside from her accolades at work, and the sex, I realized that she was common and to me that made all the difference. For example if left to her own accord (me not regulating) she would watch BET, MTV, and VH1 like it was good programming, listen to top 40’s music. She thought a Caesar salad was a healthy option on a menu. How does the saying go… Her glass was already full. There wasn’t much space too add anything in it. Mostly full with fairly standard notions about life, style, and what is cool. You know. Like when Kanye said “How you ordered all that food and a motherfu*king diet coke.” You have to be sheep to think that diet coke sh*t is fine to drink.
Ok, maybe I’m going in on her a bit but only sheep would consistently find BET. MTV or VH1 programming entertaining right? That crap is for THE MASSES. This chick thought that the Transformers 2 movie was a great movie. It blew my mind. I grew up on Transformers and wasn’t too fond of that slightly racist movie. Needless to say a conversation about plots and tropes were out of the question.
What I need in addition to her qualities was someone who is more of a non-traditional thinker. A bit more creative. More intelligent. I guess what she had was enough to keep her around but not enough to get excited about. I’m more for someone to run left field with away from the flock.
“some women are not meant to be tamed. They are meant to run wild until they find someone to run wild with them.” sounds to me like THAT would be the chick better suited for you. someone who marches to the beat of her own drum but still is content to let you lead in the dance.
many, many moons ago, my brother met someone i was dating and said dude was cool, “for a sheep.” i shrugged at him and furrowed my brow not understanding the reference. he continued. “i like sheep. they give us wolves something to eat.”
so shorty was a part of the lumpenproletariat. not exactly a crime, but also not enticing to a creative intellect either. those who critiqued you for wanting more from a partner probably are settling in some area of their life and are bitter for not having the courage to rebuke that and seek complete happiness elsewhere.
the world is filled with people content with their station in life because they already feel like they have so much more than so many others. There’s a big difference in finding happiness in the small things and continuing to strive for more, and only wanting the small things thus being content with them.
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13 Mar 10 at 10:37 pm