Our Lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.
- Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Make no mistake. I love women. The curves, the softness. All of that.

I traveled frequently growing up and even now as an adult and I do think its very important to do so. It expands your worldview. By that I mean that your sense of time and space becomes broadened. The person that has not traveled out of the United States ever in life can have a different sense of time than someone who has been to or lived in a city that has been around for a thousand years.

There is something about going into a building that’s centuries old or walking down the streets of an thousand year old city (especially drunk or high lol) that can cause you to see time from a slightly different vantage point. I digress. And that’s overly simplifying it.

What does this have to do with women you ask?

Plenty.

It was not until I started going hard with traveling did I start to be able to see women in America from a different vantage point. I meet mostly hard core career women. Think Robin Givens in Boomerang. These women who maybe ten years ago were focused on climbing the corporate ladder are now when they hit their thirty’s are freaking out about finding a guy to be their husband so they can have kids and such before its too late for them. They knowingly sacrificed marriage and having children when they were younger because being a strong, independent, and having a career was what being successful was to them. Now that they may be in a good place career wise they become beholden to their ticking clocks.

Think about how we have an American society that tells women that success is defined by their career. Starting a family not as important. Its a sad state of affairs. Not only that but whats even worse is that American women in particular end up trying to emulate men in an aggressive quest to climb the ladder of career success. So you have women who become alpha women at work because you may have to be that to keep up and progress in that world. I see it every day and that’s not their fault. The problem occurs when this spills over into their relationships with men.

This is where shit gets fucked. Pause.

The Femininity of women in America is at an all time low. Look at Katie Courig. What the fuck happened to her? That was supposed to be her power move and she looks like a dude now. Damn.

Women are not comfortable enough being women anymore… at least not in America that is. Or at least success seems to be something that far tooo many women think they cannot have while still having the trappings of a woman.

This realization may be harder to see while knee deep in your life within the states but take a trip to a country where women are fine being women and it can change your life as it pertains to women.

It hit me that hardest when I went to Rio De Janero in Brazil. Just thinking about that place makes me smile from ear to ear in a sort of wicked way like the Joker. And not just because it was easier to count the ugly women there than the gorgeous ones.

It was not just about perfect bodies and smooth skin. (sigh…) Brazilian women are proud to be women. The women there seem to be so much more in tune with their sexuality. They way they move, speak and present themselves is a over hundred times more confidently feminine than women in America.

I lost count of how many women I have met that look at certain things that may be traditional things for a woman to do as “beneath them” not only that but they still like a mans man. Sure I can fix a garbage disposal, tell you your car’s alternator is fucked and stuff like that so why are the female counterparts to those things frowned upon by so many women.

I have heard it all. Everything from “Im not the Betty Crocker type!” (no seriously she said that shit and thought she was cute… next!) and this one in particular who volunteered that she could not cook defiantly when I met her. My dumb ass ignored that and much later ended up ending it for that same reason. She wanted me to me to marry her but she wasn’t qualified obviously and could not for the life of her understand why cooking is important in terms of family. Do I even need to break that one down?

Guys go nuts for feminine women. Believe it. This sounds like the most basic shit but if you look closely many women do not take enough pride in their inherent femininity and use it to their advantage. If they did far less would be lonely. Trust.

Knowledge of self SON EARTHS!

Stay classy,

brooklyn